What we actually do in here
Four things we work on, two approaches that do the work, and an honest read on whether this is the right fit for you.
Schedule a free consultationFour things that tend to shift
Softening your inner critic
That harsh inner voice usually isn't the enemy. It's a part of you trying to protect you from something, maybe from being hurt again, or from feeling too much at once. We don't fight it or try to silence it. We get curious about what it's actually protecting, so it can start to loosen its grip instead of running the show.
Building a steadier connection to the present
A lot of my clients are used to living in their heads: analyzing, overthinking, staying one step removed from what they're actually feeling. That's not a character flaw, it's a skill you built for a reason. Together we work on noticing what's happening in your body and your emotions as it happens, not just after the fact.
Regulating emotions without bypassing them
Regulation doesn't mean suppressing what you feel or powering through it. It means widening your capacity to actually be with a feeling, sadness, anger, fear, without it taking over or shutting you down. As that capacity grows, things that used to feel unbearable start to feel survivable.
Reconnecting with your body's sense of safety
Trauma and neglect live in the body, not just the mind, which is part of why talk therapy alone can leave people feeling stuck. We use body-based, experiential approaches so your nervous system, not just your intellect, gets to be part of the healing.
What working together actually looks like
I use two main approaches, and they work together rather than as separate tracks.
Getting to know your parts
Internal Family Systems helps us get to know the different parts of you: the part that protects you by staying busy, the part that's harshly critical, the part that goes numb when things feel like too much.
As we build a relationship with those parts instead of fighting them, your window of tolerance widens, meaning you can hold more and feel more without getting overwhelmed or shutting down.
Moving what's been stuck
EMDR is often misunderstood. The eye movements can sound strange if you've only heard it described from the outside. Here's what's actually happening: the eye movements (or tapping, for some clients) help both sides of your brain activate together, which allows a memory that's been stuck to finally get processed instead of staying frozen in place. It's not hypnosis, and you're never out of control of the process.
A typical course runs about 6 to 8 sessions per memory, though that varies person to person. Before we ever start reprocessing, we spend time building safety and stability. This isn't something we rush into on day one.
IFS and EMDR support each other directly: IFS helps your protective parts feel safe enough to step back, which is often what makes it possible to move a memory through with EMDR in the first place.
Is this the right fit?
I'd rather tell you upfront than promise it works for everyone.
- You're currently in crisis.
- You're still in an unsafe or actively harmful living situation.
- You don't yet have baseline tools for regulating strong emotions. We'd build that foundation first.
- There's an identifiable memory or incident behind what you're carrying.
- You've built enough stability to have somewhere steady to return to.
- Protective parts have loosened enough for a memory to move.
For the kind of quiet, non-verbal neglect where nothing specific ever "happened," IFS and the relational work we do together often does more of the heavy lifting.
Fee structure
I am accepting new clients, both in person in Austin and via telehealth across the state of Texas.
I am currently at sliding-scale capacity. Please reach out if you'd like to be placed on my sliding-scale waitlist.
Please note: I am not in network with insurance companies; however, I can provide superbills for insurance reimbursement.
About the process
How long does therapy take before I notice a difference?
What happens in the first few sessions?
Will I have to talk about painful memories in detail?
What if I don't have a specific traumatic memory, just a sense that something was missing?
Is EMDR right for everyone?
How do I know if I need EMDR, IFS, or both?
Let's start with a conversation.
Fifteen minutes, no pitch. A low-pressure way to see whether this feels like the right fit.
Schedule a free consultationA steady space is here whenever you are.